It’s always so easy to blame others when things don’t go your way. When you’re feeling tired, demotivated and really just over it. Gatvol!
No matter who tries to have a conversation with you, you just want to turn around and say to them “DILLIGAF? Do I?”
You are in charge of you, and that’s a tough realization – it means you have no-one but yourself to blame for the current situation that you are in.
So basically, no matter how much moaning I do about how my bloody washing machine seems to be shrinking all my jeans, the fact remains – I’m sitting on my butt in front of my computer all day and not doing enough exercise. (This summer south-easter isn’t helping much either, can’t surf, can’t run on the beach unless you don’t mind being taken out by a sand storm or a kiteboarder. There I go blaming others again…)Read more…
From a very young age, I’ve always adored learning about planets and the universe, quantum physics, aliens, dinosaurs, anything that got my imagination going.
One of my earliest memories is at the age of 5, being completely dumbfounded as to why I was learning about dinosaurs in school, these massive amazing creatures that ruled the earth, however whenever I asked one of my Sunday school teachers why the dinosaurs weren’t mentioned in the Bible, no-one could give me an answer.
I mean surely Noah would’ve had some problems getting 2 T-Rex’s on his ark? Or is that when they died ’cause Noah left them behind? But why weren’t they mentioned in the beginning of the Bible then? These are genuine questions I used to ask. Kids…
I recently watched a National Geographic episode on Parallel Universes… pretty wierd stuff, but it got me thinking back to one of my favourite movies – Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow. You can watch the very 1998 trailer below or click here to watch it on YouTube.
The whole movie is based on two different versions of her life, one where she catches the train that morning, and one where she misses it.
I think its such a brilliant concept as it shows how literally one second can completely influence the outcome of your life. So every single second of your life is defining the next twenty million seconds – makes you think a lot harder about what you should be doing with your present time when you think like that.
Then this morning I watched a 15 minute clip of Steve Job’s speech to Standford University in 2005. You can watch it below, or click on this link to watch it on YouTube.
He tells 3 stories in this speech, 1 of which is about ‘connecting the dots’.
It’s all about trusting your gut and your instincts to make the next move in life. He says you don’t know what the future holds for you, but once you get there, you are able to connect the dots – backwards.
This shows you how things you thought were the biggest mistakes or failures at the time, have actually turned out to be the greatest opportunities and learning experiences.
So I decided to connect my dots backwards and see what I could discover about myself.
What I learned, was that the most defining and life changing moment in my history, was the day I became a surfer.
I got my first surfboard at the age of 15, a 3rd hand Town & Country which had been snapped in half and fixed again. It was 1.25″ thick (or thin) and took me 3 months of hard work to actually stand up on the thing, but as soon as I did I was hooked. Pumping down the beachfront on the white water with the ugliest pooh-man stance ever, stoked! (that’s me on the left)
I immediately decided that my high school and the beach were in completely different directions and this wasn’t going to work going forward.
I’ve been quiet for a while, sorry about that, things have been a bit crazy up in here. So today I’ve decided to get a little soppy about relationships. We’ve all dated the wrong people, and it’s pretty easy to spot them as we go along. But the big question is, how do you know when he/she is the right person?
Everyone’s got their checklist, well I know girls do at least.
Here’s some examples from friends of mine:
But the problem is, you’re not shopping for a pair of jeans, or a new surfboard. You’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with. And this is mostly what scares people away.
‘Til death do us part’ – it sounds like something out of a bloody horror movie! So this is it, there is no escape, aaaaaaaaah – I choose freedom!
The pressure from society, family and friends, to find a partner, get married, buy a house, have children… can be a little intimidating at the least. Just because your parents got married at 21, bought a house and made babies, doesn’t mean you have to. The world has a lot more to offer these days than it did back then, which means you need more time to discover and explore exactly what it is you want out of this life.
There is a little poem below (well it doesn’t rhyme, but like I said, there are no rules) and it contains one of my favourite sayings:
“Never live your life for another, before you find what makes you truly happy”
I think this is key. Key to life and key to love. If you’re not in that happy place when you’re alone, and you’re on a constant search for someone else to make you happy – be it your friends or your partner, the search is going to be a very long and painful one.
November 2, 2011 
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